You reach. They pull away.
You reach harder. They go quiet.
You feel abandoned. They feel cornered.
Hours or days later it settles, and neither of you really knows what happened. Until it happens again.
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The Attachment Dance
Why you keep having the same fight, even when you love each other.
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The fight isn't the problem. What it's costing you is.
Every round leaves something behind. You start choosing your words carefully. You stop bringing things up because it's not worth the fallout. One of you feels like too much. The other feels like never enough.
The closeness you both want gets a little further away each time.
And a pattern you can't see, you take with you. Into the next argument, the next year, sometimes the next relationship. If you have children, they're learning the steps too.
This is the attachment dance.
Once you can see it while it's happening, you can start to change it.
What you'll walk away with
01You'll recognise your pattern while it's happening, not three days later
02You'll know what to do in that moment, instead of reaching harder or shutting down
03You'll be able to separate what's yours, what's theirs, and what's happening between you
04You'll leave with one clear thing to do differently the next time it starts
Bonus
The questions people asked when I taught this live
When I first taught The Attachment Dance live, people brought their real questions: the fights, the patterns, the "but what about when..." moments. You get my answers to those questions too, so you're not left wondering about the situations the teaching doesn't cover.
This isn't about finding the bad guy.
Anxious isn't “too needy.” Avoidant isn't “incapable of love.” Both are ways of protecting yourself when connection stops feeling safe.
Think of the fight you've had seventeen versions of. Then press play.
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The Attachment Dance
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Questions
Is this for individuals or couples?
Both. Come on your own or bring your partner.
My partner won't come. Is it still worth it?
Yes. It takes two people to do the dance, but it only takes one to change the steps.
Do I need to know my attachment style first?
No. You'll recognise yourself as we go.
How do I watch it?
As soon as you pay, you'll get access to the course area with the recording, workbook and bonus Q&A.
Is this therapy?
No. It's an educational masterclass. It isn't a substitute for individual or couples therapy.
Can I get a refund?
Because you get instant access to the full recording and workbook, there are no refunds. If for any reason you're not happy with it, please reach out to me.