You reach. They pull away.
You reach harder. They go quiet.
You feel abandoned. They feel cornered.
Hours or days later it settles, and neither of you really knows what happened. Until it happens again.
Live masterclass
The Attachment Dance
Why you keep having the same fight, even when you love each other.
Book your spot · $48
Early bird for 48 hours, then $97
The fight isn't the problem. What it's costing you is.
Every round leaves something behind. You start choosing your words carefully. You stop bringing things up because it's not worth the fallout. One of you feels like too much. The other feels like never enough.
The closeness you both want gets a little further away each time.
And a pattern you can't see, you take with you. Into the next argument, the next year, sometimes the next relationship. If you have children, they're learning the steps too.
This is the attachment dance.
Once you can see it while it's happening, you can start to change it.
What you'll walk away with
01You'll recognise your pattern while it's happening, not three days later
02You'll know what to do in that moment, instead of reaching harder or shutting down
03You'll be able to separate what's yours, what's theirs, and what's happening between you
04You'll leave with one clear thing to do differently the next time it starts
This isn't about finding the bad guy.
Anxious isn't “too needy.” Avoidant isn't “incapable of love.” Both are ways of protecting yourself when connection stops feeling safe.
Bring your questions. Bring the fight you've had seventeen versions of.
Tuesday 6 October · 6pm SAST / 12 noon ET
The Attachment Dance
60-minute live teachingIncluded
30-minute live Q&AIncluded
WorkbookIncluded
Recording, if you can't make it liveIncluded
$48
$97
Early bird, first 48 hours only
Book your spot
Your full ticket price is credited toward Relationship Realignment Live if you enrol before it starts on 20 October.
Questions
Is this for individuals or couples?
Both. Come on your own or bring your partner.
My partner won't come. Is it still worth it?
Yes. It takes two people to do the dance, but it only takes one to change the steps.
Do I need to know my attachment style first?
No. You'll recognise yourself as we go.
I can't make it live.
You'll get the recording and the workbook either way.
Is this therapy?
No. It's an educational masterclass. It isn't a substitute for individual or couples therapy.
What's the RR credit?
Relationship Realignment Live is my 8-week live program, starting 20 October. If you join before then, whatever you paid for this masterclass comes off the price.